The Wedding Planning Circuit

Posted: October 24, 2012 in Celebrations, Life, Relationships, Religion, Wedding
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The other day someone asked me if I was going to be a Bridezilla, which seemed silly to me because if I WAS going to turn into one I don’t think I’d probably readily admit it. However, I think I’ve started to realize how it is some women CAN morph into one.

First off, getting married is a big deal and not only for all the mushy reasons I’ll put in my vows. It can be a pretty substantial investment for all involved and you’re going to end up with a few headaches when you’re spending that much money on something that should go off without a hitch, but inevitably won’t.

Secondly, you’re not the only one in your city getting married. Shocking, I know. What’s this mean for you though? That if you want things taken care of, you need to think about booking things early—which can also cause a headache. And where I come from, headaches=irritability, and if a Bridezilla can’t be classified as irritable, I don’t know who can be.

I’ve only been engaged for about a week and a half, but I’m about 2 seconds away from having both our DJ and our venue booked, and I have a dress, which probably seems a little crazy—but has me currently sitting here headache-less. So below, I’m going to share a few other things I’ve learned that have helped me keep my headache at bay in hopes that they will do the same for you!

  • If it can be avoided visit bridal shops on weeknights. Everyone and their mom (literally) goes on Saturday afternoons. Part of the reason I bought my dress so early was because of the way the staff at Pure Bridal treated me and my family on Monday night. You won’t get that on a Saturday afternoon.
  • Careful with your guest list. Don’t invite more people than your venue has room for. You have no idea who is going to show and who isn’t, and inevitably there are always people who will forget to RSVP.
  • Spend a little more on a DJ. Ever been to a wedding where the music blew? They suck. Five years from now people aren’t going to remember what they ate at your wedding, or what your centerpieces looked like—but they will remember if they had fun and to a point, the DJ helps control that.
  • Don’t spend a ton of money on food. People aren’t going to remember it unless it’s really bad or really good—and either way, they’re not there for the food. They’re there for YOU.
  • If you want a religious ceremony make sure to talk to your pastor, or A pastor if you don’t have one. Even if you don’t plan on having the ceremony IN a church, most pastors will want you to go through some sort of pre-marital counseling.
  • Don’t be afraid to buy things secondhand—especially decorations. I saved $25 on Mason jars by scoring some off Craigslist that were used at someone else’s wedding.
  • You don’t need to think about it immediately, but consider designing and printing your own save-the-dates, invitations, and wedding programs.
  • It’s okay to have an image in your head of how you want your wedding party to be dressed, but don’t get SO hung up on it you’re not willing to roll with the punches. I’ve been engaged a week and a half and have already changed my tune.

So I’m not an expert by any means, but that’s a lot to have learned in a short amount of time and they’re ALL things that hadn’t really dawned on me until I got engaged—or until already married friends pointed them out. I suspect that over the course of the next few months I’m going to learn a WHOLE lot more, but so long as I keep my bottle of Ibuprofen within arm’s reach—I think I’ll be okay.

  1. Cat says:

    You will NOT be bridezilla, one: because I will put you in your place and then I will lighten the mood by making a funny/inappropriate comment to make you laugh and bring you back down to reality! 🙂

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