8 Years in the Making

Posted: April 18, 2012 in Family, Friendship, Life, Love, Relationships
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Yesterday marked the eight year anniversary of my OWI, or DUI, or DWI—whatever you want to call it. This immediately means two things in my head. 1) Unless I’m mistaken it should no longer be on my record, and 2) I’m old.

In the past eight years I’ve lived in Memphis, Ankeny, Des Moines, and Ames. I’ve been in three relationships, one of which I’m still in. I’ve been to a countless number of weddings, I’ve been to five funerals, and have held my fair share of newborn babies. I’ve had five different jobs, have lived in 10 different residences within those four cities, and have lived with 13 different people.

I claim to be somewhat resistant to change, but those stats up above would indicate otherwise. Maybe I’m not as resistant as originally thought? Here’s what I do know though. In the past eight years, I’ve learned a lot. Some of it’s been bad, some of it’s been good—but all of it has taught me something.

  • Putting plastic on your windows in the winter really does lower your energy costs.
  • Some people are just mean and will do anything to hold another human being down.
  • Nothing good happens after midnight.
  • Relationships, and not just romantic ones, require work.
  • Any job, crappy or not, is made 100 times better if you work with awesome people.
  • I used to take my parents for granted.
  • You can wear jeans a good three times before they actually need to be washed.
  • We don’t always get what we want, but we always get what we need.
  • Roommates can create one hell of a support system.
  • There’s no BBQ like Memphis BBQ and the best ribs are at Blues City Café.
  • Bartenders on Beale Street are not looking for conventional relationships.
  • Having one DUI doesn’t necessarily stop one from driving drunk.
  • Iowa has a lot more going for it than pigs and corn.
  • Falling out of touch with people is far easier than it should be.
  • It’s strangely odd and comforting at the same time to live in the city you went to college in.
  • Cable and internet companies are highly technologically advanced scam artists.
  • Pets have an uncanny ability to know exactly when you need some company.
  • Somewhere in your mid-20’s it becomes unattractive to get sloppy drunk.
  • There’s no shame in going to bed at 10pm (or earlier).
  • If you don’t respect yourself, you give others no reason to respect you.

All right. So those are just a few random things I’ve learned in my travels. I may be older, but I’m not always wiser. I’ll readily admit to you that there are times I still drive after having too much to drink. I can be quite impatient at times which causes me to get irrationally annoyed. I don’t stand up for myself like I should in any situation, and even if it’s justified I try to avoid confrontation.

I know all of that though—and eight years ago, I probably wouldn’t have admitted any of it. I don’t know if I’m where I’m going to end up. I thought that in Memphis, and I thought that in Ankeny and Des Moines—and I think it now, in Ames. What I do know is that right now, I’m right where I’m supposed to be and I’m good with that. That place is a half hour from my parents and five minutes from my sister. It’s close to a lot of my friends and it’s where my boyfriend is. That place is filled with love and that’s all any of us really need. On top of all of that, I have a clean driving record—what more could a girl ask for?

  1. Kelsey says:

    You’re so wise Steph. 🙂 I enjoy your blog posts.

  2. diaryofasagittarius says:

    Loved this post and your transparency. Many people are not open to that fact that, yes, you too have issues lol. Holding the mirror up to yourself is not an easy task. I know someone will be lead to do the same from this blog. Great read hun 🙂

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