Lessons Learned On My First First Anniversary

Posted: January 27, 2012 in Dating, Family, Life, Love, Relationships
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On January 27, 2011 I was living in Ankeny. About a week prior, I had started talking to this guy online and we decided that on January 27th, I would drive up to Ames, and go watch his friend Tony play at a place called Mother’s. The rest my friends is history.

Today marks one year to the day of us meeting, and if you’d told me LAST year at this time that I was about to meet the person I was going to spend the whole rest of the year with, I don’t know that I would’ve believed you—not because I wouldn’t have wanted to, but because I’d kind of stopped putting those expectations out there.

But here we are, a year later—together. A lot has happened in that year, some things independent of our relationship—some not. I touched on those things back at the beginning of January in a couple of other blogs I wrote (Another Year Gone By…Parts 1 and 2)—so I don’t want to be redundant. Instead, in this blog, I want to list out things I’ve learned in the past year. I’d never made it this far in a relationship—so some of these things are things that I knew but had never had a chance to practice. Others are things I never even realized due to the fact that I was crossing a bridge I’d never crossed before. None of them are law by any means, just things that I’ve picked up along the way.

  • The best way to GET a compliment is to GIVE a compliment.
  • Say, ‘I love you,’ every day.
  • Getting mad about little, silly things can cause little, silly problems. Don’t get mad about so many little, silly things that you end up with a lot of little, silly problems.
  • Compromise can’t be spelled without the word promise. Corny, I know, but compromising is your promise that you’ll meet someone halfway simply because you love and respect them.
  • Pooping with the door open is not recommended.
  • If you move in together and one of you brings a pet, you run the risk of having your pet like the other person better. It’s not your mate’s fault. It’s your devil cat’s fault.
  • Don’t dwell on your partner’s past relationships. Yes, they’ve slept with other people. Yes, they’ve gone with other people to that very same restaurant, or that very same theater. Get over it. They’re with you now and if they didn’t want to be, you know what? They wouldn’t be.
  • Each of your families is crazy in their own right. Embrace the craziness.
  • There will be fights—and regardless of whether it’s over the laundry or how much space is left on the DVR, it does NOT mean the ultimate demise of your relationship.
  • Having a strong faith may have the ability to see you through anything.
  • Boys smell bad sometimes.

I’m sure there are things I’m forgetting, but those are the ones that come to mind. This past year has been a bit of a whirlwind—but that’s to be expected. Unfortunately, when we’re happy, time seems to go by a lot more quickly.

I don’t know what the next year has in store for us—last year brought so many things that I never would have imagined, that I don’t dare try to tell you how this next one is going to play out. I can tell you this though. If this next year is anything like the first one, I can’t wait.

  1. wmarsau says:

    That Bill is one lucky guy. Thanks so much for sharing. I’m so glad that your past year has been great. Mine hasn’t been too bad either.

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