Mad, Mad World

Posted: January 11, 2012 in Family, Life, Relationships
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The world is not a nice place. I would go so far as to say that it’s downright ugly sometimes. I know plenty of good, decent people—but it seems like sometimes the bad things that happen overshadow the miles of good those people do.

Two mornings ago on my way to work I caught wind of a story out of Huxley—concerning the death of two infants. Details were scarce at that point—but yesterday I found out that not only did this woman kill her twins, not only did she have NO intention of ever letting them live, but I also found out that she graduated from high school with my sister. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then you need to click here to read yesterday’s Des Moines Register’s article.

I don’t understand, will never understand, how anyone could harm a child—let alone newborn babies. Granted, we don’t know the circumstances surrounding this whole thing—maybe there’s something traumatic surrounding the pregnancy—we just plain don’t know. But here’s what we do know.

One, if she knew from the very beginning that she didn’t want these babies—she could have had an abortion, provided her religious beliefs allowed for one. I know not everyone recognizes that as a way out—but for some people it is. Some don’t see a difference between aborting a 6 week old fetus and killing a full-term baby—and I get that, but on some level—and I’m not trying to start a debate here—abortion seems more humane than what went down in that duplex in Huxley.

Two, Iowa is a state that won’t press charges against someone for leaving a child at a medical center or a fire station. It’s called a safe haven law. You avoid prosecution, no questions asked. How hard would it have been to put them in something and just drop them off? It sounds kind of heartless, but it’s 100 times less heartless than what ended up happening.

Third, why not give them up for adoption? Do you know how many people can’t have children?

But no. This woman ADMITTED that she intended to end their lives and at no time did she intend for them to live. So let me get this right. She got pregnant—with twins nonetheless—and went through days and days of being pregnant so that she could kill them? Just when you think it can’t get any more sick and twisted…

Again, I know that we haven’t been made aware of the circumstances surrounding the situation—but would ANY circumstances make this okay? I will admit that there have been times in my life where I thought I was maybe going to have to deal with a pregnancy sooner than I thought. I’ve taken three pregnancy tests in my life and was scared to death every time I took one. But as I sat, waiting for my fate to be determined, you know what one thought never crossed my mind? I never once thought about carrying a baby only to kill it once it was born.

I don’t know how we, as a people, can be so messed up. I understand that bad things happen, that life-altering, horribly traumatic things happen—but where did we go SO wrong that we now think it’s okay to kill babies and hide them in trunks?

It makes me a little bit sick honestly—but you know what else it does? It makes me unbelievably grateful for what I have. 29 years ago I could’ve been abandoned if it’d struck my mom’s fancy—any one of us could have just as easily ended up on the other side of whatever spectrum we’re on. Instead I ended up with an amazing set of parents, unbelievable siblings, a remarkable extended family, and friends that make my world go round.

So thank your lucky starts tonight, or God, or Allah, or whoever/whatever it is you attribute your good fortune to—because not everyone gets to live life this way. In fact, some people don’t get to live it at all.

  1. Sajib says:

    The world is not a nice place. It’s not anymore.

    I agree with you.

  2. I agree with you Steph…I just don’t understand.

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