You Can’t Always Get What You Want…

Posted: November 8, 2011 in Family, Friendship, Life, Relationships
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….but we want what we want. Wait. No. That’s not how the song goes. But that lyric is easier for us to believe than the real one, ‘but if you try sometimes you might just find you get what you need.’

Here’s the problem. We always want more than what we have. We want to look like other people, we want other people’s kids, we want other people’s spouses, we want a different car, a bigger house, a nicer yard, a newer television, a fluffier cat, a more well-trained dog, and stainless steel appliances.

Now some of those things maybe really are needed. If your family is the size of the Duggars—you probably do need a bigger house, or a different car. My point though is that no matter what we have, we always want more. We never seem to be content. We could have the perfect house and live in that perfect house with our perfect kids and our perfect spouse—and we’d find a way to want something more.  We always want something that someone else has, and while we may not think of it like this—we’re very jealous people, and jealousy can be a very ugly emotion.

So how do we reconcile that? In a world where everything always seems to be new and improved, how do we make peace with the fact that our car is almost 10 years old? Or that our nose is too big? Or that we call our house cozy and quaint so people think it’s cute—when what we actually mean is that it’s small and nondescript?

I don’t know. You weren’t expecting that were you? I had you hooked and now you’re mad I don’t have the answer, aren’t you? Well. Let me tell you something that might make you feel better. I don’t think anyone has the answer. Here’s what I know to be true though.

There’s a plan for all of us. And I’m sure some of you think that’s crap—but that’s what I believe. So wherever you are, right now, today—yep. You guessed it. It’s exactly where you’re supposed to be. Now I find it just as hard to believe as you do that the child who gets beaten in a foster home every night is right where he/she is supposed to be. Or that the homeless war vet is supposed to be living under a highway overpass. But what if I told you that child was going to grow up and become a social worker and would save the lives of other children? Or that the homeless war vet would turn his life around with the help of someone at the shelter and would go on to start an organization that helps other homeless war vets? Would you believe me then? Some of you still don’t, and that’s okay—because I don’t know how to spin an entire family being killed by a drunk driver, or a baby dying of SIDS—but I do know that no matter how awful things may seem at the time, they work out exactly how they’re supposed to.

So my point is that, whatever you have, whoever is in your life—be content with all of it. It doesn’t do any good to wish that you were someone else, or wish that you had someone else’s things—all it does is lead to a life of discontentment because you’re too busy trying to live someone else’s life to really enjoy your own.

So the Rolling Stones had it right. You don’t always get what you want. That’s a truth we’re all very well aware of. It’s the second part of the lyric we need to work on—it’s that second part we need to believe. That second part is where the key to being content lies. But if you try sometimes you might just find you get what you need. Ahhhh. Music to my ears.

  1. wmarsau says:

    I love this blog. This is so true. I know that I have spent a great portion of my life trying to be the person that other people thought I should be instead of focusing on the One who has me right where I need to be, God. He loves me unconditionally and that is so cool. Bad things happen, to everyone. It is how we respond to these bad times that defines the person that we trully are.

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